3 Steps to Playing Confident When a Recruiter is in the Stands
In presenting College Recruiting Seminars and for The Positive Coaching Alliance, I regularly interact with the parents, coaches, and administrators of high school student-athletes. Once they figure out I have been a college coach for 14 years, they often ask me the best ways to showcase their favorite student-athlete to a coach in search of that elusive athletic college scholarship.
After one seminar about 2 weeks ago, I spoke with one sophomore female soccer player and her parents about where she was in the college recruiting process. The parents told me their daughter had invited some college recruiters to watch her play at a major national college showcase tournament (ECNL) for that upcoming weekend which was taking place here in central Florida. We discussed a bit about her position on the field, how much she loves her club team, and the types of colleges she thinks she wants to attend.
Since I had attended this specific event many times recruiting as a college coach, I asked her if she was excited to play this weekend. Her response:
“I am sooooooooooooo nervous! I don’t want to mess up as this is a really big opportunity! I heard lots of coaches will be attending our games!”
This conversation stuck with me on my drive home as I had heard another similar comment from a baseball player over Christmas break. These conversations led me to make a phone call to a very close friend of mine, Tami Matheny. Tami is a Mental Game Coach who has worked with my college teams for many years, and continues to work with college and high school student-athletes all across the country. (See her full bio below) As the Owner of Refuse2LoseCoaching, LLC, she works with coaches, student-athletes, and teams to improve areas such as confidence, focus, motivation, mental toughness, leadership, teamwork, etc (the list could go on and on!). She can help transform your mindset on any challenging situation. I always want her working with my teams as she was very critical to take them to the next level! She helps to transform the locker room by developing leaders, building confidence, and changing negative thought patterns. She is the real deal in helping with mental training skills! Lucky for all of you, she has now compiled her many years’ worth of training into a book titled The Confident Athlete: 4 Easy Steps to Build & Maintain Confidence. Today, I asked her to share a few ways to play more confidently when a college coach is watching.
Thank you, Tami for always providing a great perspective in refocusing our thoughts in stressful situations!!! You can contact her firstname.lastname@example.org and follow her on twitter @R2LCoaching. You can also purchase her newly released book, The Confident Athlete: 4 Easy Steps to Build & Maintain Confidence, here.
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Coach Renee Lopez
As a 17 year coaching veteran, Coach Renee Lopez is a recruiting expert for high school student-athletes. She uses her NCAA Division I, II, and NAIA Head Coaching experience to help families navigate the recruiting process to be identified by college coaches and help them find the right “fit” for playing at the next level. She has produced 3 All-Americans, over 30 All-Conference athletes and Her teams have been honored with awards for team academic accomplishments, sportsmanship, and sports ministry. In addition, Coach Renee Lopez has been named Coach of the Year by her peers.
She presents recruiting seminars across the country, has recently been featured in USA Weekly, with the National Alliance for Youth Sports, on SiriusXM Radio and ESPN Radio. She is the author of the upcoming book, Looking For A FULL RIDE?: An Insider’s Recruiting Guide where she has interviewed over 65 college recruiters across all sports and college levels. In addition, she runs 8 Facebook groups to help facilitate conversations on college recruiting education, coaching education, leadership development, and sports ministry. She is also a certified speaker, trainer and coach for the John Maxwell Team, Jon Gordon Company, 3Dimensional Coaching, and the Positive Coaching Alliance.
She also does private consulting for student-athletes and their families to help in understanding the often daunting process of recruiting. (See one family’s testimonial.) If you are looking for help in the college recruiting process, please email Coach Renee Lopez at email@example.com.
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About Tami Matheny
Tami Matheny is Owner and Director of Refuse2LoseCoaching, LLC and Co-Owner of Success for Teams, LLC. As a Mental Game Coach, she works with coaches, athletes and teams to improve areas such as confidence, focus, motivation, mental toughness, leadership, teamwork, etc. Her book, The Confident Athlete: 4 Easy Steps to Build and Maintain Confidence was released this past week!
Matheny has a passion for sports and how the mental game affects performance. As an athlete, coach, administrator and now Mental Game Coach, she has seen first-hand the difference mental toughness coupled with physical training translates into individual and/or team success.
When not training others, Tami remains physically active. She has completed a handful of marathons, including the Boston Marathon and ultramarathons. Her longest race to date is a 40 miler. She is an avid cyclist, completing rides over 70 miles. Matheny continues to seek new mental and physical challenges. For more confidence tips and information on The Confident Athlete follow Tami on Twitter (@tamimatheny, @R2LCoaching, @tamimatheny, @successforteams), Instagram (@refuse2losecoaching), www.r2lc.com and www.successforteams.com.