Red Flags that Make College Coaches Run from a Recruit
It’s your child’s junior year. Finally, after lots of email interaction, the head coach of the first-choice school your child is dying to attend shows up on the sidelines of a huge competition. Your child performs even better than you have ever seen him or her play before. They are shining! The college coach walks over to speak with the club travel coach and asks a few questions. Then the recruiter walks on to their next competition. You never hear from that college coach ever again. What on earth happened?????
I have been a college coach for 14 years and am the author of the book, Looking For A FULL RIDE?: An Insider’s Recruiting Guide, where we have interviewed 65 college coaches and athletic directors over the past 2.5 years. In all of my experience as a college coach and through the research for my book, I have witnessed and discussed this type of scene playing out many times before. Why on earth did the coach leave and lose interest in this student-athlete?
Do you want to hear the reality? There are a variety of reasons of why a coach’s interest tapered off after watching them play live. Perhaps the recruiting video was misleading and the coach discovered they weren’t the type of student-athlete the college needed for that recruiting class. Maybe, they had another player recently commit who is very similar to your child. Or they saw something that makes them question if they are the right fit overall for the program.
I pride myself with being a straight-shooter when it comes to the world of recruiting. Are you ready for this? Oftentimes, what is lacking in fit has NOTHING to do with the student-athlete. It is actually the parent’s actions at the competition that causes the college coach not to offer an opportunity for their child. WHAT? Coach Renee, are you serious?
YES. If a college coach sees a parent acting wild and crazy, yelling at officials or coaches, they tend to move on. Or when they hear a parent who criticizes the coach’s decisions about positions or playing time, the recruiter does an about face. Or when a parent points out mistakes of other athletes on the team, and then makes sure everyone knows how great their child is down the entire sideline. Or worse, they walk up and down telling every college coach that walks by how they need to watch their kid because they are simply a game changer. Simply put, college coaches only want families who will be supporting the team as a whole and not being a helicopter parent.
It does not matter the talent level of the student-athlete. College coaches simply cannot take the risk of having a parent wearing their school emblem in the future who may behave in a poor fashion. They have a lot of choices when it comes to offering athletic scholarships and simply choose to go in a different direction. Want to hear another story similar to this happening in reality of the student-athlete acting poorly when I was recruiting? Read this blog “Beyond the X’s and O’s”.
While every parent loves their child, it is important to understand how and when to allow their child to grow and stand on their own two feet. Over the past few months, we discussed where the boundaries need to be drawn when it comes to the college recruiting process in multiple blogs for parents: “How Can Parents of High School Student-Athletes Score Points with College Coaches?” and “My Student-Athlete Is Soooooo Busy….I’ll Just Contact the College Coach for Them!: 3 Reasons Parents Should Not Toe the Line”.
Janis B. Meredith is a parenting coach who wants to help parents raise champions. She provides resources to help parents give their children a positive and growing youth sports experience. A few weeks ago, she authored this article below on www.usafootball.com. It is very appropriate when it comes to the college recruiting process to make sure parents are going down the right path. More importantly, parents should make sure they are not causing college coaches to retreat and run the other way because of their behavior.
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As a 17 year coaching veteran, Coach Renee Lopez is a recruiting expert for high school student-athletes. She uses her NCAA Division I, II, and NAIA Head Coaching experience to help families navigate the recruiting process to be identified by college coaches and help them find the right “fit” for playing at the next level. She has produced 3 All-Americans, over 30 All-Conference athletes and Her teams have been honored with awards for team academic accomplishments, sportsmanship, and sports ministry. In addition, Coach Renee Lopez has been named Coach of the Year by her peers.
She presents recruiting seminars across the country, has recently been featured in USA Weekly, with the National Alliance for Youth Sports, on SiriusXM Radio and ESPN Radio. She is the author of the book, Looking For A FULL RIDE?: An Insider’s Recruiting Guide where she has interviewed over 65 college recruiters across all sports and college levels. In addition, she runs 9 Facebook groups to help facilitate conversations on college recruiting education, coaching education, leadership development, and sports ministry. She is also a certified speaker, trainer and coach for the John Maxwell Team, Jon Gordon Company, 3Dimensional Coaching, and the Positive Coaching Alliance.
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